After years of research and survey of hundreds of married couples, American family psychologist Michele Weiner Davis affirmed that the path of marriage is rarely flat. But the successive stages of falling rapids new to happy shore.
Imagine the couple‘s life as a closed circle, after all the hardships and warmth like the first time if you persevere and don’t give up.
From the beginning to the end of your relationship, you cannot expect how lucky you are to meet him or her. Sometimes you are surprised because you two have so much in common: hobbies about music, food and even the movies you like to watch.
You just picked up the phone to ask where he was, when he saw him just arrived at the door, as if two people understand each other wholeheartedly.
Usually, the second stage is the most difficult because you experience the greatest downfall. You go from happy dreams to disillusioned. Millions of practical problems began to appear.
You notice your husband has uncomfortable breathing when you wake up in the morning. He sat too long in the toilet, left a magazine on the kitchen and never collected leftovers to put in the refrigerator. There are times when you think of him as an unusual person.
This is the time when many marriages stand in the middle of a road junction. There are three choices in front of them: One is to give up because they believe their marriage is wrong. They realize they are no longer in love.
Even marriage is not due to love but only a temporary effervescence and they demand a divorce. Second, they realized that quarreling and criticizing criticism were useless, since children should accept but those who have their own concerns. Fortunately, more than 50% of married people decide to start reorganizing their lives together, making it healthier by trying to meet each other’s needs.